How modern dating and 'the paradox of choice' are making men and women miserable



Gen Z was told casual sex was no big deal while being promised a future with a loving partner through dating apps.

Dr. Debra Soh says young people, especially young women, are now dealing with the consequences.

“I don’t think casual sex is good for either sex, but especially for women,” Soh tells BlazeTV host Allie Beth Stuckey, explaining that it’s “slightly different” for men.

“Women do tend to become more attached after sex. Whereas for men, hormonally it’s different,” she says.

While women release bonding hormones during sexual activity, Soh tells Stuckey that men’s hormones “go back to baseline.”


“So they actually disengage after sex and lose interest in their partner,” she says.

This is why Soh believes it’s “very irresponsible” that so many “feminist influencers and podcasters tell their young fans that they should be promiscuous or that they should have sex on the first date.”

“They’re telling their young fans to engage in behavior that is ultimately going to be self-destructive. And I do think this is an example of intrasexual competition in that women compete with other women and men compete with other men for sexual partners,” she explains.

“So I find that really sad, because I see it, especially with Gen Z women. I say Millennials, probably, too, really bought into this idea that having sex on the first date is not a big deal. That casual sex, if men can do it, women should do it,” she adds.

But it’s not just casual sex that’s killing modern love.

“You can kind of see some of the obvious issues with being able to swipe left or right,” Stuckey says. “It’s superficial. It’s based on aesthetics. But one thing that you said that I hadn’t thought about is that having more options is ... a historical anomaly.”

“So our ancestors before us did not have this roster of people within a 200-mile radius that they were judging based on a self-assessment and pictures,” she continues.

“The paradox of choice speaks to this,” Soh explains. “So there have been studies showing that ... when people are given fewer options, they’re more likely to actually make a choice and to be satisfied with that choice.”

“So when you’re on a dating app, it feels as though there is an unlimited number of potential partners. And so people are constantly seeking the next best thing,” she continues.

“I think there are very many of us who are just not present in terms of the dating process. … That’s a side effect of being online and just how so much of romantic interest or courtship is based through online connections or lack thereof, I suppose, nowadays,” she adds.

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Mixed messages: Allie Beth Stuckey exposes popular 'podcast prostitute' for promoting hookup culture, then announcing pregnancy



"Call Her Daddy" host Alex Cooper has just announced that she’s pregnant after years of promoting hookup culture and casual sex — and BlazeTV host Allie Beth Stuckey is calling her out for selling one lifestyle while living another.

Cooper, whom Stuckey dubs a “podcast prostitute,” once told Vogue that she had “always been a cynic when it came to marriage” because she didn’t believe she would find the “once-in-a-lifetime love” her parents had.

“We see this very traditional trajectory that she is not preaching to her audience,” Stuckey comments, before playing a clip of Cooper on her podcast.

In the clip, Cooper tells a guest that she “couldn’t even fathom” having kids in her 20s because she had yet to do some very important “self work” that she has now accomplished — and she now wants kids.


But Stuckey calls Cooper’s self-analysis “wrong.”

“Most people, if you are a woman in your 20s and you are hooking up with a bunch of guys, of course you don’t want kids because you don’t feel safe. You don’t feel loved,” Stuckey says, pointing out that women who participate in hookup culture are giving their body away to strangers.

“Of course your mind and your body and your heart is not in the right place to want to have kids,” she says.

“I think that most women have to either be able to imagine or actually feel in that moment a sense of safety and security.”

And so far, everything Stuckey has learned about Cooper reveals her to be far “more traditional” than she tells her audience.

“I just wonder if she’s a little bit more traditional deep down and has always been a little bit more traditional deep down than she has let on,” Stuckey speculates, “and if a lot of this is because she just realized what people have realized for a very long time — that sex sells and this is what works.”

“It’s not like, OK, she realized that that was a dead end and she changed her ways. She is continuing to sell this kind of advice,” Stuckey adds.

And while Cooper’s podcast is well known to celebrate degeneracy, Stuckey has noticed that many Christians do listen to it.

“It should go without saying, but apparently it doesn’t, that Christians should not be fans of Alex Cooper. You should pray for her, but you shouldn’t be listening to her podcast,” she says.

“Ephesians 5:11-12 is really clear about this,” she say. “Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret.”

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'Hookup culture will be absolutely decimated' if SCOTUS tosses abortion, TikTok user warns in viral clip



In the wake of a leaked draft decision from the U.S. Supreme Court that would overturn Roe v. Wade, its 1973 ruling that made abortion legal across America, a TikTok user said in a now-viral video that "hookup culture" would be destroyed if abortion is no longer federally protected.

What are the details?

"In case you're a man who doesn't care about Roe v. Wade, just know that if abortion gets banned, hookup culture will be absolutely decimated," Bridget Gwyn wrote in text accompanying her Monday night TikTok video, according to the Daily Dot.

"Hookup culture" is a synonym for casual sex and one-night stands, the outlet said.

“What woman would have mediocre s*x with a drunk rando if he could potentially father their child,” she added in the clip — which as of Tuesday afternoon boasted over 930,000 views.

Gwyn added in the caption that she's addressing "all the pro-life men who love Plan B," also known as the "morning-after pill" that helps prevent pregnancies after sex.

Content warning: Profanity in accompanying music:

@moneymollusk all the pro-life men who love plan b i am speaking to you directly #roevwade ♬ original sound - SHAKEYFUNNYAZZ

How are folks reacting?

Some commenters on Gwyn’s clip said a SCOTUS abortion strike down would prod them toward a second look at their sexual practices, the Daily Dot said:

  • “I’m entering my celibacy era,” one commenter said, according to the outlet.
  • “Deleting all dating apps as we speak,” another user added, the Daily Dot said.
  • “I already told my sneaky link, no more meet ups cause of fears of pregnancy,” another commenter shared, according to the outlet.

Others lamented other potential outcomes if abortion goes down:

  • “I’m scared that [sexual assault] numbers are going to rise bc we know how well ‘no’ can be tolerated,” one commenter wrote, the Daily Dot said.
  • “Pregnancy rates are going to drop while death rates are going to rise,” another user commented, according to the outlet.
  • Another commenter said "abstinence is key" will be pushed, "which leads to lack of church/state separation," the Daily Dot reported.
  • “They’re gonna come for Plan B next,” another user noted, according to the outlet.

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