How the black family was broken — and how we can restore it
Daniel Patrick Moynihan published his landmark report, “The Negro Family: The Case for National Action,” 60 years ago this month. His warnings in 1965 about the collapse of the traditional black family now seem prescient. In response, one of the country’s most prominent historically black colleges and universities is working to revive the culture of marriage and family that prevailed from the end of the Civil War through the Civil Rights era.
Known today as the "Moynihan Report," the document was written during Moynihan’s time as assistant labor secretary under President Lyndon Johnson. Moynihan feared that civil rights victories alone would not lead to full social equality. He argued that racism would remain a barrier to black progress for at least another generation. But he also pointed to a deeper challenge: the breakdown of married, two-parent black families in urban communities. In his view, that collapse posed an even more significant obstacle to upward mobility.
The new norms established in the 1960s enabled Uncle Sam to play ‘daddy’ to millions of women.
Moynihan had good reason to be concerned, but the family statistics that alarmed him in 1965 would look like progress by today’s standards. Nearly one in four black children in 1965 were born to unmarried parents at a time when the black poverty rate was roughly 40%.
Today, the black poverty rate has dropped by half, but the rate of nonmarital births has surged to 70% — far higher than the 27% among white children and 13% among Asian children. Similarly, while about 25% of all American children live in single-parent households, that figure rises to 50% for black children.
From ‘big brother’ to ‘big daddy’
Sobering statistics like these brought scholars, pastors, elected officials, and community leaders to Hampton University’s Virginia campus for the 43rd annual Conference on the Black Family. The university’s National Center for Black Family Life hosted the three-day event, which covered topics ranging from marriage rates to mental health.
I led a session titled “The Black Family Blueprint: Restoring Marriage and Rebuilding the Home.” Speaking to a room of students, I addressed the current state of the black family and how, in just three generations, the idea of “marriage before carriage” has shifted from being the norm to the exception.
My presentation unpacked the perfect storm of government policy and shifting cultural norms in the 1960s that destabilized the family structure in black America. The expansion of the welfare state made the government the de facto husband and father in millions of homes. In 1950, total federal expenditures on public aid programs totaled $1.1 billion. By 1975, it increased to $27 billion and topped $60 billion by 1985.
The rise of second-wave feminism encouraged women to see marriage as oppressive and children as a burden. Black feminists wanted to see women pursuing higher education and filling the roles they believed were needed to wage a revolution. One contributor to the "Black Women’s Manifesto" wrote that black women “sitting at home reading bedtime stories to their children are just not going to make it.”
The new norms established in the 1960s divided the home by disrupting the relationship between the sexes and enabling Uncle Sam to play “daddy” to millions of women.
One welfare rights activist wrote an essay in Ms. magazine that underscored the nature of this relationship: “Welfare is like a super-sexist marriage. You trade in a man for the man. But you can’t divorce him if he treats you bad.”
If a 25% nonmarital birth rate in the 1960s caused Moynihan to sound the alarm in the federal government, a 70% rate should be the top priority for every institution that claims to serve the black community.
Media outlets like Essence, Ebony, the Root, and TheGrio should be running stories about the future of the black family if these trends continue. Other historically black colleges and universities should be devoting resources to strengthening black families. Civil rights organizations and black churches should take the same energy they have for boycotting Target and apply it to a national boycott on broken homes.
What can be done?
Hampton’s most renowned graduate, Booker T. Washington, is a conservative figure celebrated for his embrace of self-reliance and community empowerment. His ethos is needed now more than ever, particularly as progressive social commentators appear increasingly dismissive of individual agency and slavishly committed to outsourcing racial uplift. They seem to think bigger government and better white people are viable strategies for addressing every social ill. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Rebuilding the black family requires a new call for national action, but unlike 1965, it will only happen if black leaders — not white liberals — make this a national priority.
Elon’s baby-mama drama exposes the right’s pro-family hypocrisy
It’s only a matter of time before Elon Musk goes from the face of tech support to the poster boy for child support. The billionaire owner of X (formerly Twitter) is currently embroiled in some serious baby-mama drama with Ashley St. Clair, the conservative influencer who claims to be the mother of his 13th child.
St. Clair caused quite a stir late last week when she used the social media platform owned by Musk to announce she had his baby five months ago. She claimed she went public because a reporter was planning to do so — against her wishes — and ended her statement by asking the media to honor her privacy. The New York Post published an exclusive interview the next day about her “whirlwind romance” with the billionaire.
The belief that a man’s bank account can replace his presence in the home ignores a fundamental truth: Fatherhood is about more than money.
The relationship between St. Clair and Musk is a private matter, but the response to her announcement from conservatives says a lot about the state of pro-family discourse on the right.
Several congratulated St. Clair, 26, on her new baby. It’s easy to see why pro-life activists and influencers on the right would celebrate the birth of a new baby. Children are a blessing from God, regardless of the circumstances of their conception.
Acknowledging that reality is important in a society that determines the worth of babies by how wanted they are by their mothers. If the mom-to-be is excited to be pregnant, the baby is a “bundle of joy.” But if she doesn’t want the child, then the same life at the same stage of development is called a “clump of cells” that can be destroyed at the nearest abortion clinic.
No one disputes the inherent worth of every child. But when conservatives congratulate adults who intentionally create broken homes, they undermine their pro-family bona fides.
It is difficult for an influential figure to publicly celebrate a child in this circumstance without appearing to endorse the parents’ decisions. Consider this: If a Republican politician known for his strong pro-life stance announced that he was expecting a baby with his mistress and planned to divorce his wife of 25 years, how would his conservative allies react? It’s unlikely they would take to social media to offer their blessings.
The response to St. Clair highlights a stark contrast between what many conservatives claim to support — intact, two-parent families raising children — and the culture they reinforce through their public affirmations.
Musk has had more than a dozen children with four women. He’s previously stated that “a collapsing birth rate is the biggest danger civilization faces by far.” He is a pro-natalist with the mindset of Malcolm X. He wants more babies to be born — by any means necessary.
His views align closely with pro-life Christians, the most socially conservative faction of the Republican Party. But a pro-baby movement that ignores the benefits of a married mother and father is hardly “conservative.”
Stripping marriage from the family formation equation paves the way for commercial surrogacy, unregulated IVF, and same-sex adoption. This shift has consequences.
Today, 40% of American children are born to unmarried parents, and one in four grows up in a single-mother household. For years, conservatives have lamented the breakdown of the black family, where 70% of children are born out of wedlock. They have correctly linked this crisis to the cycle of multigenerational poverty that plagues many inner cities.
Their analysis has never been limited to economic security. Every time a multimillionaire entertainer like Nick Cannon or an athlete like Cam Newton announces a new baby, social commentators predictably criticize their lack of commitment, the consequences of broken homes, and the argument that children need presence over presents.
Yet, when the father in question is a billionaire with ties to the most beloved Republican president since Ronald Reagan, some right-wing commentators suddenly apply a different set of rules.
One conservative commentator made his standard crystal clear:
Pretending that what happens far too often in the black community — getting knocked up by brokeys and bringing into the world children that have to be raised on the taxpayer dime — is similar to procreating with a billionaire is intellectually dishonest.
I responded online, pointing out that his argument only makes sense if a father’s primary role in the home is financial. This assumption has driven left-wing thinking for decades.
Progressives often respond to discussions about family structure by calling for more social spending. To many liberals, a father in the home is nice to have but not necessary, as long as government programs support low-income single mothers.
Apparently, some on the right share the left’s low view of men. Only partisan tribalism could justify the belief that a child is better off with a wealthy, conservative-friendly father who won’t acknowledge them, sees them sporadically, and refuses to commit to their mother.
Children need more than financial support. They thrive with a father’s affection, protection, direction, and correction — things a man juggling a dozen children across multiple states cannot possibly provide consistently.
The belief that a man’s bank account can replace his presence in the home ignores a fundamental truth: Fatherhood is about more than money.
Marriage establishes the duties and obligations husbands and wives have toward each other — not just their financial responsibilities to a child. Men need women, women need men, and children need both parents. The best way to meet those needs is within a loving, low-conflict household where a married mother and father are committed to each other and their children.
Despite what some conservatives may believe, a child raised in that environment is far more privileged than one with a wealthy but absent dad.
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Whitlock: Democrats sentence black children to ‘Lord of the Flies’ existence
Beelzebub killed James Lambert, a 73-year-old Philadelphia man.
Beelzebub is one of the seven princes of hell. In biblical times, Beelzebub was a god worshiped in Ekron. He could fly. Beelzebub means Satan. In popular culture, he’s known as Lord of the Flies.
The video of seven children stoning and beating James Lambert to death in the streets of Philly reminded me of the iconic 1954 William Golding novel "Lord of the Flies."
The book explores the barbaric and cannibalistic descent of a large group of young boys who survive an airplane crash on an uninhabited island. "Lord of the Flies" features seven main characters: Ralph, Jack, Simon, Piggy, Roger, Sam, and Eric. The initial alliance among the boys disintegrates into chaos as they’re overtaken by paranoia about an imaginary monster, “the beast.”
"Lord of the Flies" is one of the greatest novels ever written. It expertly depicts man’s battle with morality and immorality, groupthink and individualism, logic and emotion.
Children left unguided and unsupervised descend into wickedness. That’s what killed James Lambert.
Police in Philadelphia believe seven children are responsible for the death of Lambert. Last week, law enforcement released surveillance video showing four black boys and three black girls stalking Lambert at 3 a.m. A young black girl appears to club Lambert over the head with a pylon street cone. Other kids are accused of hitting him with rocks and kicking him.
The video looks like a scene from "Lord of the Flies 2.0." Or maybe it’s a mash-up of "Lord of the Flies" and "The Purge."
Unsupervised children on the uninhabited streets of Philadelphia at 3 in the morning terrorizing an old man. This is a crisis of the cultural rot black America has chosen to ignore and/or embrace at the behest of the Democratic Party and the Hollywood elite.
The imaginary “beast” is white supremacy. We spend nearly every waking moment paranoid that the Proud Boys or the Patriot Front or Trump supporters are terrorizing black people. We falsely claim that routine police stops could result in any of us being the next George Floyd.
I don’t use fentanyl and I don’t bicker with the police. There’s virtually no chance of me being the next George Floyd or Eric Garner or Jacob Blake. That’s a paranoid delusion the Democratic Party has asked black people to embrace. I reject it.
No woman in my house will ever be the next Breonna Taylor. I’m not a coward. I won’t allow a woman to walk to the front door with me if I believe intruders are trying to enter. I’ll leave her in safety and deal with the problem myself.
I choose to live in reality and disavow delusion.
The truth is too many black children are living in a "Lord of the Flies" reality. They live on uninhabited islands with little to no adult supervision. There are too many fatherless homes and way too many baby mamas. Black children are descending into depravity and insanity.
It’s not just in Philadelphia. The video out of Minneapolis showing toddlers barefoot and in diapers berating and attacking police is another scene from "Lord of the Flies 2.0."
Beezlebub has his hooks in our children. Yes, the same goes for too many white children as well. But that’s a deflection, a whatboutism. Seventy-five percent of black children are born to unwed mothers. That’s an uninhabited island, a recipe for violence and chaos.
White people are not in denial that something is going wrong with their kids. They go on national television and talk about it constantly. They complain about the decline in traditional family structure.
We, black people, act like improving white people will fix what’s wrong in Philadelphia, Chicago, Baltimore, Minneapolis, and every other city with a large black population. We act like there’s no benefit to improving us.
We’ve swallowed the ideology of the Democratic Party. It’s the ideology of Beezlebub.
Yesterday, I interviewed Jerone Davison, a former running back for the Oakland Raiders turned minister turned political hopeful. Davison made news last week when he released a provocative commercial that blasted Democrats as hooded Ku Klux Klansmen.
Monday, during our interview, Davison amplified his attack on Democrats.
“We’ve got to stand up and fight against these people, the Democrats, because I believe that the evil one, the wicked one, Satan has landed in their hearts and we’ve got to fight before they take away our freedoms.”
I’m sure, to some of you, that sounds hyperbolic and needlessly partisan. A Republican running for Congress argued that the political party of his opponents is possessed by demonic forces. It’s not crazy. Not to my ears. Not if you understand that black children are living in a "Lord of the Flies" reality.
I have friends who are lifelong Democrats. Most members of my family – the people I love the most – are lifelong Democrats, Biden voters, Clinton lovers, and Obama worshippers.
None of them seem willing to deal with the unhealthy reality that is the situation of too many black children. You can’t raise stable kids in unstable, unsupervised communities. Pronouns won’t fix it. Critical race theory won’t fix it. Villages can’t raise kids. It takes two parents, a man and a woman. It takes a commitment to preaching and practicing morality. It takes biblical values.
"Lord of the Flies" is a novel about what happens to young kids when they’re separated from God’s natural order and family structure. Beezlebub and the seven princes of hell take control.
It’s foolish and unproductive to blame “the beast” (white supremacy) for our collective disobedience to God. That disobedience cost James Lambert his life.
Squires: ‘Where’s Daddy?’
“Where’s Daddy?”
Sports Illustrated asked this question on the cover of a 1998 special report on professional athletes fathering children out of wedlock. It’s also what millions of American children ask on a daily basis.
A pair of football players – one a former MVP and the other a Super Bowl champion – are answering in completely different ways.
Cam Newton’s recent conversation with Instagram model Brittany Renner shines a window into modern family dynamics. At one point in the discussion, Renner asked Cam why he didn’t marry ex-girlfriend Shakia Proctor, the mother of four of his five biological children. The All-Pro quarterback stated the lure of available women was simply too strong for him to commit to being a faithful husband. Cam isn’t the first athlete to put off marriage to play the field, but like many of his peers, he acts as if children don’t also connect you to another person for life.
The irony is that, unlike Renner, Cam said he benefited from seeing his parents and the marriage they have sustained for his entire life. He stated that he would like to find that “perfect person” in the future who could accept his children. He also wished for the same type of companionship for the mothers of his kids.
It seems as if Cam was putting “conscious co-parenting” into practice way before CNN’s Van Jones coined the term.
Thankfully, a different Van shows that another route is possible. Van Jefferson is a 25-year-old wide receiver with the L.A. Rams and a Super Bowl champion. An Instagram video shared by the pro-life group Live Action captured the moment Jefferson received word his wife Samaria went into labor.
Jefferson found out while celebrating with his two younger children on the field after the game. He told them they had to leave for the hospital because “Mommy” was about to have their baby brother. His son – fittingly named “Champ” – was born on the same night he won the biggest game of his life.
The moment was also a stark contrast to what has become the norm for American families. The percentage of children born to unmarried parents has increased for every group since 1970, but the rate for black children (70%) is thirty percentage points higher than the national average.
Decades of research demonstrate a clear link between family structure and social and emotional outcomes for children. Given the emphasis professional athletes and sports leagues put on racial equality, it seems they should all be interested in addressing one of this country’s most important disparities. The NFL could build a campaign around Van Jefferson, Russell Wilson, and other players who put husbandhood before fatherhood. That might not sit well with the political interests who prefer to see the league pour money into putting “End Racism” on the backs of helmets and produce commercials where men in prison jumpsuits do interpretive dance moves and walk with a raised fist over the Edmund Pettus Bridge.
The window that professional sports provide into the broader culture isn’t restricted to men. WNBA star Candace Parker and her wife Anna Petrakova recently had a baby boy. Parker also has a 12-year-old daughter with her ex-husband, NBA power forward Shelden Williams.
In a previous generation, an announcement like this would have caused a magazine geared toward black women like Essence to ask the same question – “Where’s Daddy?” – as Sports Illustrated. In 2022, the publication is being hailed for featuring Niecy Nash and her wife Jessica Betts as the first same-sex couple on its cover. These developments show how much, and little, has changed in our culture over the past 25 years.
The notion that children do best when raised by their married biological parents is an affront to everyone from single mothers to LGBTQ activists to the radical feminists who founded Black Lives Matter and their political allies. That’s because these groups, like most Americans, think that conversations about family should focus on the desires of adults. We rarely consider what is best for children. Every child has a mother and father, and in an ideal world every child would grow up in a home where the adults are as committed to one another as they are their offspring. Everyone knows the world is not ideal, but there is a big difference between a widow raising her children with the help of her family and conscious co-parents who think the natural family is an outdated Western relic of white supremacy.
Van Jefferson shows the benefits of maintaining the link between marriage and children. Jefferson is as invested in his wife as he is in his children. His children will likely benefit from seeing that type of commitment on a daily basis. I don’t think there is any coincidence that the Jeffersons appear to be a family grounded in their faith. Van states that he prays with his mother before games, and his Instagram bio includes the phrase “God First” and the Bible verse James 4:6. A biblical understanding of sex, sexuality, gender identity, and family is a bulwark against the shifting tides of a culture that sees the nuclear family as one of many equally valid family structures.
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