Kids Don’t Just Need A Father Figure. They Need A Dad
Democrats can’t mock masculinity and expect men to vote for them
Democrats are making a full-court press to woo men back to the party, with the New York Times recently reporting that donors are considering a $20 million effort to connect with the more “privileged” sex. The plan apparently includes studying the “syntax, language, and content that gains attention and virality in [male] spaces.”
It’s good that the party finally realized that alienating half the electorate is an unwise political strategy. Kamala Harris lost the male vote to President Donald Trump in 2024 by 10 points. The president won 60% of the white male vote, along with 54% of the Hispanic male vote and 21% of the black male vote. Those results are unsustainable.
A party beholden to feminists who think traditional masculinity is toxic will never prioritize the needs of the average American male.
But I have news for donors that will save them from wasting time and money: A party can’t do meaningful outreach to people they resent.
That may sound like a harsh assessment of the left’s relationship to men, but it’s true. What’s also true is that the problems Democrats have with messaging to men are primarily ideological, not rhetorical. That’s because the modern Democratic Party has a broad coalition of voters who hate any expression of traditional masculinity. This includes both liberal and radical feminists, LGBTQ+ activists who want to change the definitions of “male” and “female” altogether, and self-flagellating male “allies” who feel duty-bound to rid themselves publicly of their “toxic masculinity.”
The party’s inability to reach men is a structural — not syntactical — problem.
Men in previous generations, including the white majority, had a home in the Democratic Party. At that time, Democrats campaigned on bread-and-butter issues, such as jobs and education. They still talk about those issues today, but they occupy a much different space within the left’s business model.
Issues like the economy, health care, and even race could be viewed as “expenses” Democrats are willing to pay in order to sell their preferred “products”: abortion, all things related to LGBTQ+ Pride, and climate change.
In fact, progressives are so invested in “transgender rights” that they are willing to throw women under the bus to do so. That’s why Sen. Chris Murphy (D-Conn.) said he would support boys who identify as girls competing against natal females in sports. Any man watching the left dump its commitment to second-wave feminism in favor of first-wave “theminism” would be a fool to think Democrats would be loyal to him.
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The modern left prioritizes “marginalized” identities more than anything, which makes straight white Christian males apex oppressors in the left’s intersectional “Hunger Games.” This warped worldview puts Democrats in a bind. They want to win back men, but at the same time, they don’t want to upset the coalition of “oppressed” groups who look to them for protection from the “orange menace” currently in the White House — especially since some of the men they’re courting voted for Trump in 2024.
No one on the left wants to be blamed for bringing in a new batch of men into the party whose land acknowledgments are some version of, “My ancestors were settlers, and I don’t apologize for the country they’ve built.”
The truth is, the party whose symbol is a donkey is only interested in male “mules” — men willing to leverage their male “privilege” on behalf of the feminists, abortionists, and Pride activists who hold all the sway on the modern left. That means a black Christian man who is solidly pro-life has no space in the modern Democratic Party, while a white male feminist wearing a shirt with the slogan “The future is female” is a useful ally.
Men can sense the resentment, and many won’t be swayed by effete influencers who binge Joe Rogan interviews and practice their “bro” lingo in the mirror. A political movement can’t spend decades telling men that their very nature is problematic and then act surprised when the people they’ve been chastising defect in large numbers.
The irony is that when these efforts fail to produce the results the party desires, progressive pundits will respond 95% of the time with the type of preachy scolding from the same bitter “cat ladies” who drove men away from the left in the first place.
This is why any attempts to win young men back to the left will ultimately fail without a major change in the party’s priorities. A party beholden to feminists who think traditional masculinity is toxic will never prioritize the needs of the average American male.
War on masculinity: Why ‘Adolescence’ contradicts its own message
Netflix’s new show “Adolescence” tells the story of a 13-year-old boy who murders one of his female classmates after being radicalized online by the likes of Andrew Tate — a man whose influence had an episode of the mini-series devoted to it.
“The best thing you can say about this is that it is addressing a legitimate concern that you and I frankly have about who is discipling this generation of young men,” Steve Deace of the “Steve Deace Show” comments.
“The best thing you can say is it has stumbled upon a legitimate concern our worldview has, but it lacks the worldview to adequately address it, and so therefore is entangled in its own idolatries that contradict its own message,” he continues.
The first glaring point Deace makes is that the show is “based on a story that undermines the premise of the entire show.”
The show is in part based on the real and recent story of a black teenager in Britain named Hassan who brutally murders a girl for no reason. However, the series blames white men, masculinity, and right-wing influencers for the violence instead of what clearly is a deeper problem.
“This reinforces our lament about how the church has largely left young men behind in the last generation,” Deace says, “They’re not getting the proper discipleship at home.”
And in order to get the proper discipleship, they need proper parenting.
“This is why we need good dads to help us exercise and navigate this tension, and this is why dads need to be connected to their heavenly father who experiences the exact same tension with them, right out of the womb,” Deace says. “Look at this beautiful creation of mine, I’ve counted all the hairs on his head, and yet, in the not too distant future, he’s going to look at me and say, ‘I think I could be like God, I’ll call my own shots, make my own decisions.’”
“We used to societally understand these things. These things used to get preached and taught from our pulpits by men worthy of such teachings and preachings,” he continues.
“If we don’t tackle these dilemmas amongst ourselves within a biblical worldview, the culture will do it for us.”
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Daniel Penny’s 'toxic' masculinity saved lives
Daniel Penny was found not guilty by a Manhattan jury and has been cleared of all charges for the death of Jordan Neely. Penny placed Neely in a chokehold on the subway to keep him from harassing passengers in May 2023.
Neely, 30, was a homeless street performer and Michael Jackson impersonator who was shouting, throwing things, and making threats on the F train in SoHo. According to Penny and other witnesses, Neely was yelling that someone was “going to die today.”
The homeless street performer was alive when the police got to him, but the police said that they didn’t want to resuscitate him via mouth to mouth because he was dirty and looked as if he could be carrying diseases.
While Allie Beth Stuckey of “Relatable” believes the police reaction is “very sad,” she’s undeniably pleased with the verdict.
“One woman who was on the train, one witness, thanked Penny for saving her life. Another passenger described this rant as a satanic rant, and many passengers said that Daniel Penny actually kept them safe that day,” she comments, adding, “The fact that he was alive when the police found him, that is very significant here.”
The courage that Penny, who is a former Marine, showed in the situation has become increasingly rare and almost impossible to come by — especially considering the way his life changed following the incident.
“We’ve all seen videos go viral on X where a young woman is being either sexually assaulted, is being sexually harassed, and the men around them do absolutely nothing. Either because they’re cowards, they don’t want to be inconvenienced, or because they know something like this is going to happen to them, especially if you have a black suspect,” Stuckey explains.
“That’s just the case, when you’ve got a white person and a black person and the white person even just appears like the aggressor, you know that you are going to lose in the media. You know that you’re going to lose in the court of public opinion,” she adds.
While Penny didn’t lose in the court of public opinion this time, had Neely’s death occurred four years ago, Stuckey believes we’d have seen a different verdict.
“I think if what happened to Jordan Neely happened four years ago, we would have seen a different verdict,” she says. “Which is actually very sad because verdicts should not depend upon the cultural moment, it should not depend upon social media outrage, it shouldn’t depend upon protest or how loud one side is. It should only depend upon the facts.”
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